Trauma and the Effects on Life and Military Service

by Nate Nomichith

Trauma is Multifarious

Trauma comes in many different forms and almost always has some life long affects on daily living. The experiences that we endure throughout our life are permanent and cannot be taken away. We tend to hang on to and reflect on the positive experience in our lives and often we repress some of the bad experiences. The result of burying our trauma has uncontrolled side effects that manifest in many different forms.

What you will read next is my personal experience with trauma, how it has affected my life, my service to my country in the military, and the journey to healing from my experiences.

My father migrated from a country in the southeast Pacific in the late 70's, post-Vietnam war. One of the things that he brought with him was the way that he was raised and was disciplined. So, for the first 16 years of my life, I suffered from intense physical abuse.

Trauma Can Shape You

Through my...

by Kevin Brenner, ADPI Hero, Capt, USAF / @investorkev

Everyone Sucks

Your day is finally here.  You’ve made it to the Big Show.  Coach taps you to close the game out in the bottom of the 9th inning with the bases loaded. The pressure is palpable as your team is only up by one run.  Here’s the problem, you’ve never thrown a baseball in your life. You wind up with a nice leg kick, lean in, and fire a 24 MPH fastball that barely makes it halfway to home plate.  The entire stadium erupts in raucous laughter.  Well, this didn’t go according to plan...     

The cold hard truth is that everyone sucks the first time they try something.  This applies to all facets of life, including real estate investing. You can read 10,000 books and still make silly mistakes.  So what do you do - curl up into a ball and cry. Probably not the most effective solution to your problems. Believe it or not, most people actually...

Kevin Brenner, ADPI Hero, Capt, USAF / @investorkev

The Subtle Art...

If you haven’t already, log into Amazon and order a copy of Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. This is a mindset book.  It has absolutely nothing to do with real estate.  So why is it one of the most highly recommended books out there for aspiring entrepreneurs and real estate investors?  Simple - because like Robert Kiyosaki in Rich Dad, Poor Dad, Manson uses a counterintuitive approach to establish extreme self awareness in a society that misinterprets true extraordinary behavior with what was once considered by many to be normal.  It’s one of those reads that very abruptly brings you down to Earth and lets you know that you aren’t that special.  You aren’t any more or less special than anyone else reading this blog right now.

So why am I blathering on about all of this, you may be asking yourself? It’s this book, combined with...

Options in Multifamily Investing

There are a lot of good strategies that work well for military families. VA house-hacking is on the top of most people’s lists – and was on mine too. For some people, hacking into a few investments is enough; but many active duty members are driven with a big, burning “why” that leads them into bigger and better investments. [Feel free to comment with your “why” below] In my case, I went from house-hacking to 55-units in Spartanburg, SC, and will soon have many more. Along the way, I hope to highlight some of the benefits of multifamily investments.

House Hacking into a Portfolio

I hacked into my first investment property before house-hacking was even a thing. While I was a young devil dog stationed in Okinawa, I read Rich Dad, Poor Dad. I know, cliché, right? I figured it would be difficult to invest from Japan (I now realize this is a limiting belief), so we decided to wait until we were back CONUS....

Buying International Properties

You’ve probably been there before: Lying on a beach daydreaming about what it would be like if you stayed and never went home. Maybe during your last overseas duty station you’ve walked through an old Italian village wishing you could live forever surrounded by olive groves under the Tuscan sun or you’ve stopped at the local brewery, dressed in your Oktoberfest finest, and dreamt of simply buying the apartment next door and making this your forever spot. Or, instead of living there yourself, you’ve contemplated dipping your toes into the international real estate market to diversify your investment portfolio. How different can real estate be in another country right?

No matter the reason, if your dream is to one day own an overseas beach house or Tuscan villa (or any other international property), these five considerations will help you come to the international market prepared.

• Explore the...

Carpe-ing the Diem

“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” 
― Eleanor Roosevelt

I was sitting in the Engineering Control Center (Maneuvering) underwater onboard my submarine the USS Albany (SSN-753) when one of my sailors walked in. Maneuvering, while underway, is usually a boring place with little to do but stare at screens or dials that barely move. Time is spent talking about cars or women or, more often than not, video games. Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon is also a popular game.

As a result, when the sailor walks in and tells us his story, we are all ears. He had recently checked his email (yes, we do get email underwater and sometimes even Facebook) and had received a message from his wife talking about their lives back on shore and providing updates on his 3-month-old baby. He paused in his story and I caught a glimpse of a tear in his eye....

I want to bust some myths about investing in a mobile home park!

 Misconceptions:

Control or Speed on the Path to Financial Freedom

As a real estate investor who is just getting started, it’s easy to be consumed by the idea of financial freedom.

The first deal you do is absolutely terrifying. The whole process is filled with fear, doubt, and anxiety. But, once you get proof of concept and start to receive the almighty cash flow all of that begins to subside.

Those emotions never disappear, they are always lapping against the shore of our mind like a gentle wave even in the best of times. Eventually, you will do whatever it takes to get that next deal under contract. There is a definitive psychological as well as physiological response from closing that deal and getting closer to the goals that you have set.  

Curating your life Path

Most people begin the journey for financial independence for the right reasons. They want to take back control of their time and experience life to the fullest with those they hold most dear....

5 Keys to Raising Private Capital

Kevin Brenner, ADPI Hero, Capt, USAF / @investorkev

The Dadism That Got Me Off My Butt

Everyone loves a blog to begin with the phrase, “My Daddy used to say, [insert cheesy life advice tagline here].” Well, strap in everyone, because this next cheesy tagline could be the anecdote that motivates you to get off the couch and into the real estate game.

My Daddy, a fantastic entrepreneur and business owner, used to (and still does) say, “You can hope in one hand and piss in the other, guess which one you’re going to have more of.” Before you run off to the lab to experimentally prove this Dadism (I don’t recommend it, but if you must, wear latex gloves), hear me out.  What I mean is that at some point in your investing career, whether you a newbie, or an experienced commercial real estate investor, you will hit a plateau.  For a lot of Buy and Hold investors out there, this plateau...